DISCUSSION FORUMS OVERVIEW
The most popular
and widely used resource for GGMG members is our
discussion forum hosted by BigTent. These forums are meant
to create a sense of community amongst our members and provide a safe
and supportive environment to learn and share.
The guidelines are intended to protect and serve GGMG membership. They
are subject to change at any time.
GGMG members are free to post anonymously whenever they feel the need to do so. Please be assured that all anonymous posts are truly anonymous – your identity is unknown to the Web Team and other GGMG volunteers and we are unable to notify members if their anonymous posts are rejected. All anonymous posts are held for moderation and may not appear in the forums for 24 hours, although the response time is usually much quicker.
- The Early Years: for all pregnancy-related and parenting (up to pre-K) discussions, including questions about how you interact with your caregivers
- The Elementary Years: for all parenting, 5 (kinder) to 11 (5th grade) discussions, including questions about how you interact with your caregivers
- Careers: for job postings, discussions related to work, careers, and professional
development. Please click here
for more detail.
Questions: for all
questions not related to parenting, such as ISO housekeeper, home
renovations, travel advice or general inquiries.
Search: used to recommend
or search for a nanny, au pair, day care, share care,
babysitter/babysitting swaps between members,
mother's helper, doula, etc. You should only recommend a caregiver that
you have used personally and you must use the Caregiver Recommendation
Template. Please click here
for more detail.
Events and Announcements:
by GGMG volunteers to announce upcoming events and volunteer openings.
Only volunteers are allowed to post to this forum.
used to post items for sale, for free or "wish to buy", garage sales, tickets,
discount referrals and coupon codes, real estate/rental
listings, job openings, and advertising and self promotion. Please click here
for more detail.
Access the Forums
To view or
participate in the forums, login to BigTent,
to 'my groups' then choose 'Golden Gate Mothers Group'. Click on the
'forums' tab to view recent discussions or search for historical
Change your Email Preferences
To change the frequency of email notifications you receive, login to BigTent,
go to 'my bigtent' then choose 'email
settings'. Put a check mark in the box to the left of the forum(s) you
wish to change. Scroll to the bottom of the page and use the 'Change
notification to' drop-down box to select one of the following:
daily message digest (topics only)
– will send an email message for every 25 new topics that are
posted; you may receive more than one email per day. This option will
send the least number of email messages per day.
daily message digest (topics and
comments) – will
send an email message for every 25 new
topics or comments that are posted; you may receive more than one email
Only – will not
email digests but you can access content online at any time
The Parenting and Miscellaneous forums are
not monitored, meaning that GGMG
volunteers do not consistently read or respond to posts made on this
forum. If you have a question for the directors or a specific
committee, please send us an email instead of posting on the forums.
for a list
of direct email addresses.
NOT SHARE your BigTent Username and Password
Our online community in BigTent is meant for members only. Do not share
your login credentials (username and password) with non-members such as
your spouse or partner, your caregiver or your friends.
Always search the archives before asking a question. Chances are
someone else has asked the same question and there are valuable answers
already available. To perform a search:
- Log in to
BigTent with your BigTent ID and Password
- From the
top-level navigation, click "my groups", and
then choose "Golden Gate Mothers Group"
- Click on the
- In the box
labeled "Search" type in a simple
description of your search. Use general wording, if possible, and if
one description isn't adequate, try using similar wording. For example,
if you are looking for information on sleep training, search for "sleep
learning" or "CIO".
- Click on the
magnifying glass to run the search. The
results will be displayed below the search box. Click "Next" to page
through the results.
the number of times you post the same
You may only post the same message once per week. Duplicate postings
within the same week will be deleted and you will not be notified.
are in place to help maintain a safe
and supportive discussion environment. These guidelines outline what is
allowed in the forums and what will be removed:
To encourage a supportive sharing of resources in the forums, members
are expected to be considerate of all members when communicating. Please make sure you can objectively answer
NO to these three
questions in regards to your post:
it destructive rather than constructive?
Any communication in the forums, even those expressing disagreement or
negative experiences/opinions must be delivered in a manner that is
respectful and serves a purpose (to ask for support, answer a question,
further the discussion, etc).
Is it malicious?
Regardless of intent, posts/comments that contain any mean-spirited or
harmful content may be removed.
If you answered yes
to one or more, the post is
not appropriate for the
GGMG forums and should not be posted.
Is it inflammatory?
Regardless of intent, posts/comments that contain any hint of agitation
or provocation may be removed.
A Questionable Childcare Situation
If you have observed a questionable situation involving the care or
treatment of a child and would like to reach out to the parent, you may
be post in the 'The Early Years or Elementary Years' forum; however, you must keep the
tone neutral and use the template below. Posts concealing your identity
or describing caregivers in a negative way will be removed.
Questionable Caregiver Situation at
witnessed a questionable caregiver situation
with a child today. Here is a description of the parties involved.
Please contact me if you think this could be your child.
Unsolicited Opinions (Positive or Negative)
New topics containing opinions, reviews or recommendations of a
business, service, school, caregiver or product are permitted in the Parenting
Questions or Miscellaneous Questions forums provided they are
first-hand accounts of your experience, follow forum etiquette and
guidelines, and are not posted more than once.
No Anonymous Evaluations
Posts sharing a positive or negative experience with a specific, named
vendor or person should not be posted anonymously.
and Self Promotion
You may not post a new topic to advertise a business, service, website
or blog that you own or have a financial or other interest in. However,
you can post a response to another member's current forum post. For example,
you may not start a thread suggesting members visit the restaurant you
just opened. However, if a member asks for caterer recommendations, you
can comment on their post with detailed info regarding your catering
business. You must disclose your affiliation (for example: you are the
owner, employee or receive any sort of payment or commission) in your
response and your response must be relevant to the conversation. Owners or employees may not comment on a competitor's business.
Promotional messages from outside (non-member) businesses are not permitted in the forums and may not be posted by a member on behalf of the business.
advertising and self promotion is allowed in the Classifieds. In the Classifieds, please post to the
'Services Offered' category. EXCEPTION: Caregivers may not promote
Affiliate links and other links that provide direct monetary or other benefit to an individual, school or other party, are permitted provided that you disclose who benefits from the clicks and/or purchases made through the link.
No posts for events, talks, open houses, etc unless it is:
If the event meets the above criteria and does not violate the 'Advertising and Self-Promotion' criteria above, please post it to either the
'The Early Years' or 'Elementary Years' or 'Miscellaneous Questions.
- Sponsored by
GGMG (post to GGMG Events & Announcements forum) or
- Sponsored by
the city or
- A fundraiser or open house benefitting a school, library, park or similar child-related non-profit organization or
- Free and open
to the public
Please note that the following items or topics should be posted in the
Classifieds section, not in the forums. To access the Classifieds,
click on the 'classifieds' tab in BigTent.
Please see the guidelines
specific to the
Classifieds section for more
- Items for sale
or "wish to buy"
- ISO Members to
meet class or workshop attendance minimum
referrals or coupon codes
- Real estate or
- Job openings or
- Advertising and
- Surveys, interviews, or focus groups
No solicitations for religious or political campaigns, any type of
"Vote for X" messages, chain letters, or requests for monetary
donations. Requests for the
donation of items such as clothes,
diapers, carseats, etc will be allowed.
Discussions of political topics are permitted as long as members remain civil and refrain from “calls to action” such as recruiting members to contact political representatives for a specific cause, signing petitions or contributing to a campaign.
Forum posts that contain a link to an article or website with no
explanation or context provided may be removed. Excerpts of the article
that are more than a short paragraph may be removed.
Potentially Disturbing News Stories
Forum posts that link to, or discuss, disturbing or graphic news stories (i.e. child abuse or violence) must be posted with the following subject line: “Warning: disturbing content”. Details should not be included in the subject line.
Posts that include inflammatory language such as profanity, sarcasm or
personal attacks will be removed from the forums.
Posting negative stereotypes or denigrating comments about any race, religion, national origin,
ancestry, sex, sexual orientation, gender identity, age, socioeconomic status, or disability is not
permitted. Posts that contain any form of hate speech will be immediately removed.
GGMG takes the privacy of its members very seriously. GGMG posts, comments and digests are private and restricted to GGMG members only. They are not to be shared with or forwarded to any other person without the explicit permission of the original author of the post. Information posted on the GGMG forums including, but not limited to, an original forum post, a forum comment, member user names or any personal identifying information may not be shared on social media, including Facebook and Twitter or used in a blog without the explicit permission of the original poster or commenter. Failure to comply with these guidelines may result in the suspension or termination of GGMG membership.
GGMG cannot guarantee confidentiality. If the privacy of your post is important, please use caution and consider posting anonymously, changing identifying details or not including personal information.
Please note that the GGMG PR Committee does maintain a GGMG Facebook page which may discuss general topics that are “trending” in the forums. However, no identifying member information or direct quotes from GGMG members’ forum posts or comments will be included.
GGMG exists to help nurture moms during the early years of parenting and the intent of the privacy guidelines is not to stop the flow of useful information on parenting topics and community resources. GGMG does recognize there is a difference between supportive sharing vs. sharing with “malicious intent". The intent of the privacy guideline is to ensure that members' personal comments shared in confidence are kept private and that no identifiable information about that member is exposed outside of the GGMG community.
Bullying or Harassment
Members should be polite, courteous and respectful at all times when
posting in the forums, especially when debating
sensitive topics such as sleep training and vaccination choices. Any
form of bullying or harassment will not be tolerated. Please help keep
threads open for discussion by refraining from
back and forth debates or personal attacks. Remember to be
respectful in your responses and only comment if you have
something new to add to the original poster's question.
Forum posts that are found to be in violation of Federal or California
State Law will be deleted.
Due to regulatory and safety concerns,
posts that offer to sell or donate (or seek to obtain) prescription
medication are not permitted.
Member email addresses and other contact information are confidential
and for the personal use of members only. Do not share member
information or your BigTent login credentials with non-members.
GGMG members must be mothers, living in San Francisco, with a child
under the age of six. If it is found that you did not meet these
when you joined or renewed your membership (for example: you are a
nanny trying to find a job or you are a vendor trying to promote your
own business), your membership privileges will be revoked.
GUIDELINES SPECIFIC TO THE
CAREGIVER SEARCH FORUM
GGMG prides itself
on providing a safe and reliable
community for our members. The Caregiver Search forum is meant to help
you find a variety of caregiver solutions including a nanny,
babysitter, au pair, mother's helper, doula, day care, share care, etc.
Please note that preschools do not fall under this category, however, preschool/daycare teachers seeking employment as an individual caregiver may be recommended provided your relationship with the teacher is clearly stated.
In an effort to maintain the integrity of this forum and protect our
members, the following guidelines are in place:
All caregiver recommendations in the Caregiver Search forum must follow
the template below, except those looking for a share care partner (defined as an arrangement where two or more children from different families are cared for by a nanny at the same time) or
members looking to swap babysitting duties.
Please note that you may not recommend yourself as a caregiver. Both first and last names of the recommender and the caregiver are required.
- My full name is:
- My phone number
- My email address
- My caregiver's full
- My caregiver's
contact information is:
- She/he is
looking for: <type of job>,
<location>, <dates>, <etc.>
- I employed this
caregiver from <start date> to
- I highly
recommend her/him because:
- Your child's age:
- Does the
caregiver drive (yes/no):
certifications (eg. CPR, etc.):
- TB Test (yes/no):
Search forum is fully moderated. This
means that all posts must be approved by a member of the Web Team
before they will be displayed in BigTent. Posts are typically
reviewed within 24 hours of being submitted. If you do not see your post
within that time frame, send an email to firstname.lastname@example.org
to see if your
post was rejected for being in violation of forum guidelines.
Recommending Your Caregiver in Response to Posts
Members who wish to recommend their caregiver in response to a member’s post for nanny recommendations must also use the Caregiver Recommendation Template or include a link to their original moderator-approved BigTent post. Please note that the template is not required in response to a post looking for daycare recommendations.
Anonymous Caregiver Recommendations
recommendations for caregivers, nannies,
babysitters, au pairs, mother's helpers, doulas, etc will be rejected.
"Posting for a Friend"
made in this forum must be written
by you, for a caregiver that you have used personally. Please do not
post for a friend that is in search of a caregiver.
Interested Parties to Contact You Directly
recommendation, you may encourage members to
contact your caregiver for additional information however you should
also be available to discuss your experience with the caregiver you're
recommending with interested parties.
Not Post in the Classifieds
All searches or
recommendations for caregivers in the
Classifieds section will be deleted.
If you experience
unusual or suspicious activity when
exploring the referrals provided in the Caregiver Search forum, please
alert the Web Team by sending an email to email@example.com.
investigate the situation and take appropriate action.
will randomly verify recommendations
made in this forum. Your GGMG membership will be terminated or your recommendation removed if it is
suspected that you have made a false representation of yourself or your
caregiver. Future recommendations on behalf of a fraudulent caregiver will not be approved.
cannot verify all information provided
by members and therefore does not endorse the recommendations made in
our online forums. Members are encouraged to perform proper due
diligence when interviewing and hiring caregivers based on these
GUIDELINES SPECIFIC TO THE
section can be accessed by clicking on the 'classifieds' tab within
BigTent. Its goal is to allow for the exchange of goods and services
amongst our community.
Please note the following items that can and should be posted to the
Classifieds section (not the forums):
for Sale, for Free or Wish to Buy
Items for sale, for free or
'wish to buy/borrow' should be posted
in the Classifieds section. Please ensure you are satisfied with the
condition of the item before you make a purchase, as GGMG cannot be
held liable for these transactions.
Members to meet class or workshop attendance minimum
If you are trying
to find members to fill a class or workshop that is at risk of being
canceled due to low attendance, you may post an ad in the Classifieds.
Referrals and Coupon Codes
(for example: Groupon or Plum
District) should be posted in the Classifieds section in the "Discounts
& Coupons" category. If you are
receiving any type of benefit from the promotion, it must be fully
disclosed. Coupon codes for any sale event (for example: 40% off at the
Gap or Friends & Family discount code for my company) should
be posted in the Classifieds section in the "Discounts &
Estate or Rental Listings
All real estate or
rental listings, "in search of"
requests and invitations to open houses should be posted in the
Openings and Seeking Employment
Job openings or job
seeking requests may be posted in
the Classifieds section under the 'career' categories. You may also try
a Yahoo Group called 'Works for Me'. EXCEPTION: Please note that caregivers may
NOT seek employment in the Classifieds section. This includes nannies,
babysitters, au pairs, mother's helpers, doulas, and day cares. All
caregivers must be recommended by a mother for whom they have worked
previously. More information can be found in the 'Caregiver
Search Forum' section.
and Self Promotion
Advertising for a
business or a service is allowed in
the 'Classifieds' section. This applies to any business, regardless of
whether you are the owner, an employee or a customer. When posting an
advertisement, please use the 'Services Offered' category. EXCEPTION:
Please note that caregivers may NOT promote themselves in the
Classifieds section. This includes nannies, babysitters, au pairs,
mother's helpers, doulas, and day cares. All caregivers must be
recommended by a mother for whom they have worked previously. More
information can be found in the 'Caregiver Search
Focus Groups, Interviews, Surveys and Other Research
Requests for member participation in focus groups, surveys, interviews, research studies, etc may be posted in the Classifieds section under the category "Focus Groups-Interviews-Surveys-etc". Only members may post to this section but may post on behalf of another party.
GUIDELINES SPECIFIC TO THE CAREERS FORUM
All job postings in the Careers Forum must follow the template below.
Job Position Title:
- Full or Part Time (If Part Time, approximate number of hours & schedule.):
- Job Type (Contract, Temp, One Off, Permanent,Temp-to- Hire, Remote):
- Salary Range:
- Job Location:
- Hiring Contact Name/Title/Phone/Email:
- Company Website:
- Job Description or Link to Job Description:
- How to Apply (Link or email or other contact information.):
Solicitations for work (ISO jobs) are not permitted in the Careers Forum. Affiliations with a
business must be disclosed.
Please be aware,
our forums are not fully moderated.
Posts made by members who disclose their identity are displayed
immediately after being submitted. Posts made anonymously are placed in
a moderation queue and must be approved by the Web Team
before they are displayed. The typical time for anonymous posts to be
reviewed and displayed is within 24 hours. If you do not see your anonymous
post displayed within that time frame, send an email to firstname.lastname@example.org
to see if your
post was rejected for being in violation of forum guidelines.
Anonymous posts are truly
anonymous; moderators cannot see the original poster's name in the
The Web Team is responsible for moderating the forums. This
committee is comprised solely of volunteers. Due to the volume of posts
in the forums we rely on
all GGMG members to notify us when they see a post that violates forum
guidelines. This can be done by checking the 'flag' checkbox below the message.
When a message is
flagged, a notice will appear in the
moderation queue. A member of the Web Team will then review
the message in question.
If a member violates our forum guidelines multiple times, that member
may be placed on "constant moderation". This means that every message
they post will need to be approved by the Web Team before it
is displayed in the forums. The Web Team will notify the
member when they are placed on constant moderation and when they are
removed. The length of time a member is on constant moderation is up to
the discretion of the Web Team but is typically three
months. GGMG reserves the right to take appropriate action (for
example: suspending or revoking membership) if a member continuously
violates forum guidelines.
If a discussion contains multiple comments that are in violation of
forum guidelines, the Web Team will post a warning reminding
members to be considerate when participating in the discussion. If the discussion
continues in the same manner, the thread will be closed for further
comment or removed from the forum.
If you have any
questions, please send an email to email@example.com.